Anger always involves a projection of your own weakness. Anger cannot occur unless you believe you have been attacked and so your retaliation with anger is therefore justified and you therefore see yourself as without blame for your anger. This is as irrational a premise as the one which will inevitably follow that your brother is somehow worthy of your attack and anger rather than love. If you start with an unsound premise an unsound conclusion is the only outcome. In truth you cannot be attacked unless you believe you are worthy of that anger. Ultimately you are responsible for what you believe. May your day today be one of self belief my friend.